Part of me is probably in denial as Lisa has repeatedly told me she doesn't want to be a mum, but another part is sure her maternal side will kick in.

I have to believe this as I don't want to think I might never have a family.

When Lisa first told me she didn't want kids I thought she was joking – now I know she's not.

Even so, I refuse to be put off and hope we'll start a family in our mid-30s.

If Lisa still doesn't want to, then I will have to face reality and make some life-changing decisions.

Having children means an awful lot to me, but I can't imagine life without Lisa.

It would be incredibly difficult, but I'd have to accept us as a childless couple and hope it doesn't become something I'll regret forever.

WOULD YOU STAY WITH YOUR PARTNER IF THEY DIDN'T WANT KIDS AND YOU DID? HAVE YOUR SAY.

'HE WANTS KIDS

- but I don't'

LISA MURRAY AND HER PARTNER OLLIE COOPER, BOTH 28, HAVE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP. BUT THERE'S ONE MAJOR STUMBLING BLOCK THAT COULD SPLIT THEM UP…

LISA SAYS...

Don't get me wrong, I don't hate babies. I just don't want my own. Never have, never will. I consider myself to be a nurturing, caring individual, but I've never felt any affinity with kids – babies are boring and children are annoying.

And, in some ways, my decision is an environmentally friendly one. I'm no green queen, but the planet is already overpopulated and our waste is depleting resources, so my decision is also a step towards saving the world, right?

Children create an enormous divide between the have-cots and have-nots. If they ever return your calls, conversation is limited. We didn't talk about poo before, so why is it on the menu now?

I think Ollie's hoping I'll change my mind as the tick-tock of my biological clock gets louder. Well, I can't predict the future and yes, I might decide my life is a void without children – but I doubt it.

I'd never be so selfish as to deprive Ollie of the chance to have a family because I love him and want him to be happy. I'm rational about the fact that my decision poses a threat to our relationship.

The thought of saying goodbye to the man I love because we want such fundamentally different things in life is simply heartbreaking, so I try to push it to the back of my mind.

I'd be devastated if he left, but I'd just have to try to convince myself that if we have such contradictory views about the future, perhaps we were never meant to be together.

It's the hardest thing of all to disagree about, but I just hope we can find some way to make it work.

WOULD YOU STAY WITH YOUR PARTNER IF THEY DIDN'T WANT KIDS AND YOU DID? HAVE YOUR SAY.

Credits

Photography: Charlotte Murphy Words: Lisa Murry, Claie Wilson